How to feel more powerful & in control when life happens

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Change refers to the alteration of a situation. While the change might be sudden and unexpected or something that you choose, the process of adapting to the change, the healing process, if you will, lies in our emotions, those 'transitional feelings ' that require a healing process.

Every time we experience a change in our lives, good or bad, we feel the emotional consequence, and these emotions can greatly impact our overall happiness unless we recognize the power of acknowledgement and letting go. This isn't always easy when we might have feelings of anger, shame, hurt, guilt, fear or grief - however, the alternative – is to stay stuck and carry them with us, and as a result, our energy decreases, and our view of life is affected.

But we can equip ourselves with tactics, tools and techniques to support our emotional well-being at such times to prevent us from riding the emotional rollercoaster. Dealing with our emotions when things end and begin is helpful for several reasons:

  • Closure: Acknowledging and processing emotions related to the end of a situation can help bring a sense of closure.
  • Emotional regulation: Recognizing and managing emotions helps regulate them, reducing the negative impact on mental and physical health.
  • Improved relationships: Understanding and managing emotions in difficult situations can improve communication and strengthen relationships with others.
  • Better decision-making: Being mindful of emotions during transitions can lead to more balanced and thoughtful decision-making.
  • Resilience building: Developing skills to manage emotions during endings and beginnings effectively can build resilience and prepare for future challenges.

And you bring new possibilities to your life by 'letting go' of these transitional emotions and stepping into new beginnings with greater positivity and energy. To process the negativity and hurt that might want to remain provides the power and energy to move on.

A study conducted by researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, found that people who could let go of the past and focus on the present were more likely to experience greater happiness. The researchers also found that people who could find meaning and purpose in their transition were more likely to experience greater well-being and happiness.

Research conducted by the University of Warwick, discovered that people who can find a sense of control during a change and transition are more likely to experience greater happiness. Additionally, they found that people who could find a feeling of purpose during a time of change and growth were more likely to experience greater well-being.

Whether it's talking to a friend, seeking the guidance of a therapist or a specialist who works in this area of mindful support, having a network of people who can understand and support us can make all the difference in helping us to navigate the ups and downs of the inevitability of life change that is as sure as death and tax!


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