Finding Freedom in 2025
Because Freedom isn't just abour making resolutions - its about fixing why you are failing to get the results you want.
So let's alk about Freedom and what it means to you
- Is it Freedom from the negative voice in your head, the one that keeps saying you’re not good enough?
- Is it Freedom from the feelings that drag you down and the cycles that seem impossible to break?
Imagine waking up and feeling light, strong, and, dare I say, free.
It's OK to feel stuck. You're not alone.
If you’re reading this while , scrolling through social media in bed, sitting in a coffee shop or slumped on the couch in front of the TV, feeling heavy and stuck, know this: you’re not alone.
It’s January, and everyone seems to be talking about new goals and big changes. But none of that matters right now.
What matters is you—and the fact that you are on the hunt for freedom. Showing up is brave, even when it doesn’t feel like it.
Your 3 Steps to Freedom
STEP 1
It's OK not to be OK and crave a duvet day
It's OK not to be OK and crave a duvet day
STEP 2
Exploring why you feel how you feel
Exploring why you feel how you feel
STEP 3
Why quick fixes don't work for you
Why quick fixes don't work for you
STEP 1
It's OK not to be OK
& crave a duvet day
It's OK not to be OK
& crave a duvet day
Let’s start with this: It’s okay to feel sad, stuck, or overwhelmed.
Life changes can shake us up, even if we think we’re prepared.
Maybe you’re carrying the weight of yet another January where resolutions have already started to fall apart. You promised yourself that this year would be different, but here you are again:
- The diet lasted until the first friday night and now there’s a pizza box in the fridge with your name on it.
- You planned to hit the gym three times a week, but it’s been two weeks since you’ve seen the inside of one.
- That promise to “spend less and save more” evaporated with the allure of a winter sale.
- You swore you’d start journaling, but your notebook is still collecting dust on the nightstand.
So Stop .... Just Breathe .......
HERE'S THE TRUTH
These feelings are normal, and you’re not alone. Dr. Kristin Neff, a researcher on self-compassion, says that being kind to yourself when things are hard isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.
"It’s okay to feel this way.
I’m human."
I’m human."
Take a deep breath and tell yourself. And while you’re at it, maybe laugh at the ridiculousness of life.
Seriously —why do bananas turn brown so fast?
If fruit can’t even keep it together, cut yourself some slack.
STEP 2Exploring why you feel how you feel
Sometimes, you feel stuck because you're going through a big life change. These changes can be scary and confusing. This transitional emotions are a consequence of the fear of letting go of the old and trying to figure out what’s next.
It can be any life change ... when something comfortable and familiar ends, and something new and unknown begins. In your vulnerabilty, your fear, in the form of your Inner Monolgue, works against you.
Some days, it feels like you’re juggling flaming torches while riding a unicycle. It’s messy, but it’s also where growth happens.
Your kids have grown up
& moved out
You’ve spent so much time taking care of them that now you’re not sure what your role is anymore.
Menopause or
physical changes
Shifts in your body and hormones can leave you feeling like you don’t recognize yourself.
You’re on your own after a breakup or divorce
The life you thought you’d have feels far away, and you’re dealing with loneliness and self-doubt.
You’re running a business & feel exhausted
Self-doubt and negative thoughts creep in, making you wonder if you've got it in your to cut it.
STEP 3
Why Quick Fixes Don't Work
Why Quick Fixes Don't Work
Self help activities take time and energy
You might have tried things like self-help books, podcasts, or programs before.
If they haven't worked its likely because these solutions focus on surface changes and don't fix the deep stuff that keeps you going round and round in the hope, give up, feel rubbish cycle.
Forced positivity is truly an exhausting exercise
Genuine positivity takes no effort. Forced positivity is truly exhausting. You'll get better results:
- Spend time understanding your emotions and what’s beneath them.
- Noticing what triggers your negative thoughts or feelings.
- Taking small steps everyday that feel possible
- Change happens gradually, not all at once.
Freedom doesn’t come in a one-size-fits-all package
If affirmations worked for everyone, we’d all have abs and boundless confidence.
Real freedom is messy, personal, and takes time.
So What's The Plan Fran?
1. Recognize the Voice
- Spend time thinking about what really matters to you. You could try
- Meditating or EFT or simply sitting quietly with your thoughts.
- Thinking about your values and what makes you happy is not familiar but essential.
- When have you been happiest and what was going on at that time?
2. Reframe Negative Thoughts
- Your inner critic is loud and harsh, but you can respond gently.
- When you hear your inner critic say, “You’re not enough,” ask yourself:
- What would I say to a friend feeling this way?
How can I reframe this thought in a kinder way?
3. Take One Step at a Time
- Instead of trying to change everything, pick one thing to focus on. It might be:
- Setting boundaries with someone.
- Taking a short walk each day OR
- Getting enough sleep or rest but the key is consistency.
- Start small. Small wins create winners.
- Setting boundaries with someone.
4. Find Support
- You don’t have to do this alone.
- Consider reaching out to a trusted friend,
a therapist or counselor,
perhaps a group of like-minded people who understand what you’re going through. - I can honestly tell you, we are all more similar than we think.
Closing Thoughts
So if you’re still reading this, it’s because deep down, you know you’re ready for something more. Not more goals or expectations, but more freedom from the thoughts and feelings that hold you back. You don’t have to do it all at once. Start small. Be kind to yourself.
And if the negative voice pipes up again, just remind it: “I’m not stuck—I’m in transition. Watch me soar.”
Here’s wishing you an amazing 2025. You deserve to feel lighter, stronger, and free—and you can .....one step at a time.